{"id":933,"date":"2015-09-06T15:29:44","date_gmt":"2015-09-06T21:29:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.trypnotik.com\/blog\/?p=933"},"modified":"2025-04-21T08:36:14","modified_gmt":"2025-04-21T14:36:14","slug":"10-commitments-for-personal-and-social-success","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.trypnotik.com\/blog\/10-commitments-for-personal-and-social-success\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Commitments for Personal and Social Success"},"content":{"rendered":"

Over the past few weeks, I have been working on repairing my old web projects and rediscovering the successful work I did in the past. Everything I was working on had been on a Lunarpages shared web hosting server and then, one day, they all just disappeared…without a trace. I was\u00a0hacked…severely. My files were riddled with base64 malware, and one by one my web projects died.<\/p>\n

I spent the last week learning about the problem\u00a0and discovering solutions. Once I figured out how to clean and restore all of my work, it was time to decide the best way to move forward in an efficient way. I chose to begin here. With my blog, which you are reading now. At this point, I am confident that I’ve broken the cycle of neglect and have set goals\u00a0and am developing a plan to repair and restore the web properties that had been so successful in the past.<\/p>\n

So, now; here is my first post, in a born-again blog. The words aren’t flowing through my fingers very well yet, and I don’t have a direction for this piece to go. I do know, however, that I would like to express some of what I’ve been reading over the past two years about the neurology of feelings.<\/p>\n

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When your heart is full of anger, and your creativity has fallen into neglect, it can spread to others like the flu. On the other hand, having a secure base offers comfort, stability and can help to free your positive, creative energy. Anxiety causes a preoccupation with failure and the fear of doing poorly, making mistakes, being rejected, abandoned, and can prevent someone from taking the kinds of risks that are necessary to accomplish important goals.<\/p>\n

At some point in the past four years, I lost the sense of engagement and satisfaction that drove me to learn\u00a0about Internet technology. I was no longer fully present and in sync with the work I was doing. When I was engaged, it was easy to see what these projects needed. I could enter into a feeling of oneness with the work I was creating, and engaging with my different audiences came naturally.<\/p>\n

In spite of any intellectual potential I may have had, I was falling into depression and creative complacency. In the same way that my websites were suffering from malware, my head and heart were suffering from work anxiety, uncertainty about the future, and social malaise. Relationships became unsatisfying\u00a0and going into work each morning was terrifying.<\/p>\n

Today I have more than a few stories about how this cycle of neglect perpetuated, and clear examples of the consequences. I can’t tell these stories right now as there are still plotlines that are unresolved\u00a0and involve relationships that are still unreconciled. Rather than lead with the past, my intention is to look forward to the future. To make commitments\u00a0that will guide good intentions, develop focus, and allow me to see better the direction I am going in.<\/p>\n

The 10 Commitments<\/h2>\n
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  1. Define Core Values<\/strong>
    \nWhen floundering in a flotsam of despair, it can be hard to orientate yourself and chose which direction to go. Truly, finding a singular purpose and pursuing it is a major step forward for living a successful life. Being deliberate about why we do the things we do offers simplicity and confidence. Decisions are easier to make because we already know which direction we are going in.<\/li>\n
  2. Don’t Get Offended<\/strong>
    \nOpen-minded self-confidence is a social sticky trap for attracting good people. These personality features rely on someone having a think skin\u00a0and makes it difficult for someone to rattle you and compromise\u00a0your core stability.<\/li>\n
  3. Seek Biological Allies<\/strong>
    \nOur most meaningful relationships are not always our most positive ones. My favorite artistic example of this is in a Modest Mouse lyric that says “…and I’m lonesome when you’re around, and I’m never lonesome when I’m by myself.<\/a><\/em>” Loneliness has little to do with how many friends and relations that one has\u00a0and is more closely related to the quality of those relationships. Positivity in our relationships correlates to greater biological resilience, immunity to infection, and greater self-esteem<\/a>.<\/li>\n
  4. Listen Actively, Especially During Disagreements<\/strong>
    \nListening is the number one tool for understanding, and being the type of person others want to be around. The ability to understand and navigate different points of view is a paramount skill to have for maintaining positive relationships and preserving a sense of self in each person. If you disagree about something, you may never be able to change their mind now or in the future. Show people that you understand them and respect their right to an opinion.<\/li>\n
  5. Share Feelings When it is Appropriate<\/strong>
    \nThis one gets me in more trouble than any of the others. It is still one of the most important aptitudes for social success. To personify my brain, I consider that my\u00a0amygdala and prefrontal cortex as coworkers, each with something equal and opposite to prove. Many times the emotional limbic side will try and handle the decision-making\u00a0that might be better left to the prefrontal “high road.” (These ideas came from reading     Daniel Goleman<\/a>, which I highly recommend to anyone who is interested in the neuroscience behind human personality) The skill comes in the ability to share your feelings without dumping your troubles on someone.<\/li>\n
  6. Embrace Change<\/strong>
    \nFear of change can be paralyzing. This fear paralysis can cause you to be risk-averse to the point of staying in a bad situation, instead of actively trying to improve a situation or emotional environment. Change is always just around the corner and being always prepared means\u00a0having a plan of action should sudden changes occur.<\/li>\n
  7. Make Kindness a Priority<\/strong>
    \nIf someone has had first-hand experience with abuse, pain, neglect, or any such litany of negative experiences, it is easier to reflect that back to others. Being mindful of yourself, and the feelings of others is empowering, addictive, and can counteract some of the social predation that comes from having anger in your heart. Actively seeking out opportunities to care about people that we are close to makes these opportunities easier to spot, and subsequently act on. The better a person becomes at expressing kindness, the more kindness they will inevitably get in return.<\/li>\n
  8. Be a Model of Responsibility<\/strong>
    \nOwn your mistakes and be prepared to protect and preserve the things that are important. Be quick to recognize and correct your mistakes. Approach adversity from a position of strength and accountability, rather than shame and\u00a0blame.<\/li>\n
  9. Let Go of Grudges<\/strong>
    \nHolding grudges creates a knee-jerk stress response that hinders the ability to work and communicate with people. Anger or rage that you associate with someone can wreak havoc on your mind and disrupt the sense of flow that we need to pursue the important goals and other drivers of personal success. This type of stress can also lead to high blood pressure and heart disease. Letting go of anger at all costs is both emotionally liberating and can have a real effect on biological health.<\/li>\n
  10. Foster Gratitude<\/strong>
    \nEvery day brings something to be thankful for. Developing a gratitude awareness makes it easier to recognize the things that we have and what to be thankful for. Once you have recognized what you are thankful for, stop and think about that feeling. Where do you feel gratitude? In your chest? In your head? Actively seek out the sensation of gratitude and look to understand the places in your body, physical and emotional, that these feelings come from. Finally, learn how to express that feeling to others; letting them know how much they are appreciated, loved, and how important they are to you and the people who love them.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    After proofreading this post, I realize that it has a lot of pseudo-advice and not a lot of actual solutions. This is okay, though because it is more for me than for you. As I continue to recover and redevelop my old web properties, I will be making a lot of guesses about the right way to go about building them and adding content. If you have any comments or advice for me, please don’t hesitate to share them. I am only as good as the people I surround myself with, so; if we are friends I will always accept your positive input.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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